Saturday, July 23, 2011

Prayerful Listening


The title today concerns how to listen to directions from God instead of always petitioning him for your wants. And I admit the idea came to me from another source other than prayer. On Sunday, July 17 I was reading the meditations from The Word Among Us on page 58 of the meditations for July and August 2011.

On this day their meditations came from Romans 8:26 , The spirit helps us in our weakness. Their introductory sentence takes up the way most people pray, petitioning God for something or other. And as they say, that's okay too, since He wants us to be happy,"But there's another form of prayer that is just as valuable and just as necessary to our spiritual lives: the prayer that listens for God's wisdom and revelation."

When I read that I got that that aha feeling. In a somewhat different way that's what I've been thinking and doing for a long time. I'd simply never thought to give words to the notion that sometimes it's always best to let Him have it His way. In other words when our day isn't panning out as we'd planned instead of praying that the particular mood of the situation that is 'letting us down' will turn in our favor, we accept it and allow it and go on from there.

And often, on down the road, we'll see how that particular point in time coincides with something greater, and more appropriate in our lives. Had we not stood still and quietly listened and offered whatever discomfort and annoyance we endured for Him to put it toward His purpose rather than our own, we would have missed far greater opportunities.

My awareness of not always wanting my own way was not born out of quiet solitude, however. And in fact, in one way or another it's always been with me since in my life there were scarcely any options other than those that presented themselves. What I did not do, however, was talk about my inner most feelings. Not being a particularly outwardly religious person in that I seldom joined in on heated discussions about this or that, but deep down I knew where I stood.

My frustrations ran deep when people blamed God for everything to crop failure to a rain ruining their picnic. Let's pray for no rain on Sunday so we can get together and have a jolly old time, and other such unworthy prayers always left me thinking, don't they understand it rains where it rains and why waste His time with such petitions;He runs the world His way and the best we can do is listen to that small still voice inside us to see how best we can help.

The older I got, the more I listened. But in all that time I never ran into an exact sentence that spelled out listening as a form of prayer. Of course everyone is supposed to know that is the general assumption. But sometimes, as the author of that particular meditation knew, it needs be said. Far too many aren't listening.

How does this fit into mental health? In every way possible. Instead of getting all tangled into chaos when our plans go awry, lets be more acceptable to His way. What this does is open the door to pathways of thinking hitherto unknown. Inspirations and opportunities await those who are brave enough to throw open their hearts, ears, eyes to Him.

An example to illustrate what I mean: I love to write. I've always written. A few years ago, however, I was tired and I quit. I vividly remember telling Him, I quit, if you want me to write again,I will, but it will have to be your way. For five years now, my writing has taken on new meanings to me. Yet, I've never forgotten that it all depends on Him.

When I come to those time when I have to decide whether I will write what I know the editors want to hear or what will further my standing with them or what I know He wants me to say, He wins.

Of course I have no assurance I am right, but when I do and say, even in my ignorance, what I believe is best, I am sure He understands and makes allowances. It creates fewer problems later on.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Excessive Criticism can be controlled


We all know people who never seem satisfied with others.Their every action is open to the whims of the person who sees what's wrong with the rest of the world but never admits their part.

The truth is, none of us are perfect. One way of dealing with the annoyances of others and their failings is to recognize that ours are as big in their eyes and it may be they are kinder and care more for our feelings than they do for having others see things their way.

To go through life nit picking and looking for flaws in others is surely to increase our own. That is so because the time we're looking at our neighbors in a critical way, is time wasted in working on our own flaws and trying to improve on ourselves.

We are the only person we will truly ever know, but if we don't make the effort 'to see ourselves as others see us' (Robert Burns)and to come to terms with it, then how can we walk on in this world toward a better one?

Of course it hurts to admit the truth sometimes, but once we've forced ourselves to do it, then we are able to attempt ways of improving on our faults. The first step, however, is in seeing ourselves as flawed as the person we criticize, or that is criticizing us, and letting it go no further than it need go.

Love yourself enough to see yourself in every person you meet. For better or for worse.

Friday, July 1, 2011

The healing power of love


The healing power of power of love is potentially a never emptying cup of goodness bequeathed to us from our Creator. And yet, this greatest of all emotions is so tainted with wrong use today, it is hardly recognizable.

How can it be retrieved? First of all we must know what it means in its entirety? We must know how to recognize it within ourselves and to allow it to guide us to our better selves. And most important of all, we must know what it is not, and to know to turn around and not get splashed with its power to rob us of our sense of self.

What exactly am I talking about in the above paragraph. Sex is biological, love too has it biological seat within our brain but it is where real love resides. The more we examine our capacity to love even when there is no obvious reason we should -- as society dictates -- the stronger will be our resolve to love and not hate.

Hate blinds us to everything except the object that we blame for all our problems. Mental health dictates that we first overcome our hatred of others, and if we don't yet have the capacity to love those that despise us and wish us harm, we can at least learn to tolerate them.

The image? I scribbled this on a sheet of paper one day, for I know not why not, but searching through my collection for an illustration, the thought that love has the power to conquer darkness. No matter how depressed or hopeless the situation that surround us appears to be, love can break through that. In other words, no matter how dark the night, dawn follows with it hope for a brighter day.